"What do you mean when you say Yoni or Lingam?"

Yoni is a Sanskrit term derived from traditional Tantric lineages and could be translated as "source" or "origin" but also als "temple". It refers to female genitalia and includes both the external (Vulva) and internal parts (Vagina). We believe that words do make a difference and speaking about female genitalia as something as sacred as the origin and source of Life and as a temple that you meet with humbleness and devotion, makes a difference in how we relate to our own body. Other common words might carry notions of serving male genitalia or might have tastes of devaluation, therefore we chose to use the ancient word Yoni to honor and celebrate her with words, too, without any religious connotation.
Lingam is a Sanskrit term for the male genitalia and can be translated as “symbol” or “sign” or “pillar of light” and refers back to the symbolism of Shiva, the masculine principle of the universe and its creational power. Please note that whatever way you prefer about your pelvic space and genitalia, we will adapt and adhere to that and use your preferred wording or language.

 

"Is partial or complete nudity required for the sessions or workshops? Do I have to be naked?"

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No. Nudity is at no point a pre-requisite for Tantric practise. You might have the most touching, arousing, heart-and pelvis opening experience with yourself or with your partner while being  fully clothed and not even touching your partner.

Some say, 90% of the magic happens in the energetic space, in the space of "almost". While this is open for discovery, rest assured that you can be as clothed or as naked as you feel like in any given moment. That being said, there is practices benefitting from skin to skin contact and partial nudity  (oil massage parts, body to body contact, yoni/lingam worshipping, sensitizing) You can choose how naked or clothed you want to be at any given moment. The facilitator will always be wearing underwear and a Lunghi.

 

"I'm feeling shy to enter such a space and be witnessed for the first time at such a level of intimacy."

We are aware that this is a tender and fairly intimate step to invite yourself into. Being witnessed in and of itself holds both magic and lots of vulnerability. Being touched and held intimately by a person you do not yet know, might feel a bit scary, maybe unknown, maybe also exciting. Rest assured that your boundaries at any given moment are respected and that you will have a choice how close or far - or if at all - you would like the masseuse to be. You have a choice to slow down, to pause or stop a practice at any given moment and will be guided into discovering what you want or need in that. You get to choose how deep you would like to go. Any moment anew. Any moment is new in the body and we will offer you ways to explore that and listen to that. We do also practise communication, check-in regularly and have safety words such as pause and stop. You can always send us out of the room and call us back.

 

"Is this an erotic or sexual space? How much permission is there for Eros to flow?"

 

Another common misconception of Tantra is, that it is only about erotic or sexual expression and practices. While Tantra is inclusive and welcoming of these energies, it is by far not the only aspect of it. There is heart-centered intimacy, emotional practices, mediation and awareness building, breath work, voice activations, communication, moving energy, archetypal work and even more... So here is what this space is about: Eros, as a universal life force that flows through every living being is absolutely welcome. Your pleasure is welcome. Your sensuality is welcome. Your erotic expression and your juices are welcome. AND this is not a space to fully live all of that out. It is a non-penetrative, a non-fetish space and everything being practice is devoted to Truth and Love, devoted to the power and wisdom of your heart(s). You can always clarify further in the beginning of your sessions and are invited to be precise about your boundaries, which energies you want to welcome for that time.  

 

Is my / our gender identification relevant?

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Maybe you have noticed from the previous sections of the FAQ that Tantra is a very inclusive, non-judgmental practice. While some streams of Neo-Tantra and classic Tantra seem to interpret quite traditional gender roles, the essence of those archetypal energies goes far beyond binaries or clear biological demarcations. We are regarding gender expression as a spectrum of possibility and infinite creativity and unlearning your patterns and traditional gender roles can be quite liberating. You get to play with penetrative and receptive qualities beyond your biological or social gender ideas, if you want that. Yet, there is absolutely also no shame about fully and happily embodying certain traditional gender qualities - so whatever offers you the capacity to be present, to stay open, to be willing to be surprised and touched, might be right for you at any given moment.
We do offer these space also for marginalized folks and beings from the Trans-community, while also ackknowledging that it is a tender space to hold with care, accountability, curiosity and the willingness to learn and show up for repair.

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"I know or sense, that my body is holding Trauma. Will this be the right setting or space for me?"

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This is a vast, vast field, so please feel welcome to write us a personal message if you are unsure. We all carry big or small moments of Trauma in our bodies, whether it is through our biography or transgenerationally through the female lineages before us - and nowadays we are having access to such an abundance of tools and ways to meet it. Yet, that being said, the right moment, the right capacities, the right setting, the right relational and logistical structures are needed for us to meet it in a way that is actually attuned with our momentary nervous systems capacities. So this will be a very individual exploration and we encourage you to book a discovery call and allow your body, your slowest parts to really sense if this moment, this setting and this therapist is right for you. The key to meeting Trauma for us has been an inner spaciousness that is ready to approach each moment at the pace of your slowest parts and not trying to be faster or more intense than that, even if other parts are yearning for it. Non-goal-orientation, feeling resourced and unconditional loving presence are really making a difference here. All our therapists are traumainformed and practiced in traumasensitive bodywork, yet this is so much more personal than just knowing that someone has the right tools or techniques to meet you there. 

 

"Is Tantra only a practice for monogamous, heteronormative relationships?"

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No. Absolutely not. It is a common misconception - probably arising from neo-tantric interpretations and polarity work, that only heterosexual or heteronormative relational settings in monogamous structures benefit from tantric practises.  Tantra welcomes all that is, welcomes you just as you are. We are an organisation dedicated to Truth, Love and Presence, and those know neither societal norms, nor sexual or relational preferences.  You are welcome as you are, whether you have just met, are long-term friends, lovers, partners, play-partners. Whether you are in a closed monogamous setting, or exploring poly.

Whether you identify as any "..."-sexual, or none. Feel welcome.

 

"Do we need to have any knowledge or experience to participate in the workshops?"

 

Tantra used to be an initiatory path exclusive to those experienced in awareness-based practices and courageous enough to be initiated also by death, darkness and ritual.  Dakinis could be quite gruesome in appearance, practice and setting. That is not the case in modern lineages anymore. So, no pre-existing tantric knowledge or experience is needed for you to be able to savour some of its magic.  That being said, the willingness and courage to show up, come back to presence and love, again and again and the availability for depth that Tantra in its all-encompassing nature offers naturally, might be helpful allies on the path. Same accounts for your willingness to connect with breath, sounding & movement.

So take a moment to get honest with yourself: Do I want to make myself available for that?

"Can the offers be extended or customized for our personal occasion, location and needs?"

 

Yes, sometimes. This is about your individual journey. So as long as your capacities and the boundaries of our practice allow for it, everything is imaginable. We have offered wedding anniversaries, offered intensives in cities and retreat centers all over Europe, created super individual and customized journeys, that might include sensual fruit platters, rose petal baths, sauna (if available), personal playlists and rituals If you have an idea, feel free to write us a message. That being said, we do not offer hotel visits or home visits - as these conflate private/personal spaces with a practise that needs clarity, safety and energetic alignment. 

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"Can I expect or count on an orgasm during the massage to release?"

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No. There is really not much you can "expect" in the realm of honest tantric practice, besides meeting the momentary truth of your body, mind and soul in a non-goal-oriented way. Orgasms are fully welcome, if they want to happen naturally, organically and in attunement with relaxation, devotion to the heart and listening to the body.Tantra massages are not erotic massages, they don't provide erotic services, but are a deeply devotional practice to Truth and Love. Chasing an orgasm, or using it to release tension or stress, are patterns that can be met during the massage and you're invited to sink a layer deeper to meet what wants  to be avoided through that chasing. Tantric massages are a radically non-goal-oriented practice and it can be easy, tempting and comfortably known to hop on the train of expectations, fantasies or orgasmic desires and yet we are inviting you to always come back to the present moment and to learn to move and savour the energy so that you keep your freedom to stay fully present and to choose to let an orgasm unfurl, instead of hunting it. Our main principle for all things pleasure-, release-, expression-, juices- and orgasm-related is: No forcing and no holding back.

If you do not want to let go of the goal of an orgasm, this is not the right space for you, but there is others we can recommend.

 

"Is reciprocated touch part of a Tantra Massage? I really want to give back."

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No. Tantra Massage are an unconditional, non-reciprocal devotional practice that involves no touching back, no giving back and no interactions between giver and receiver on a personal level. That is why the Tantric Masseues are wearing underwear and a Lunghi, while you can be fully naked, to have a representation of that. You can direct your generosity fully back to yourself to allow to receive something unconditional and just for being you. And of course your financial contributions is a beautiful way to "give back" in a clearly defined way.

If you are not familiar with the Wheel of Consent, we recommend to have a look at it if you notice the pattern to want to give back a lot in your life. It might help you to identify and clarify your intentions and communication around it in other areas of your life. Please note: Any try to force or push for reciprocal contact that might also include trying to kiss, touch or pull the Tantric practitioner into an action will result in terminating the session immediately
and at full cost as it is a violation of the agreements with space and therapist.

 

"I am struggling with  pre-mature ejaculation, erectile  dysfunction or otherwise feel pressure to perform or function. Can Tantra support me to meet that?"

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Yes, in many cases. As we are emphasizing again and again, Tantra is dedicated to Truth and Love in the present moment. To loving your body as it is and to take its language as an oracle for finding your Truth. Often when you are dealing with PME, erectile dysunctions, or perfomance pressure, there is underlying tensions, patterns of shame, unresolved trauma or fear of intimacy that can worsen the symptoms. Only very few of those symptoms are actual physical limitations, most have their origins in a mix of psycho-somatic stressors and a self-fulfilling feedback loop of fear-based anticipation ("that it will happen again")Tantra can support you in meeting yourself intimately and building a solid foundation of self-love, radical solidarity with your body's truth and intimately getting to know the underlying patterns that cause those symptoms. Also, at no point is an erection needed or even relevant to experience the full spectrum of tantric ecstasy and bliss and to have a really fulfilling experience. This topic is a lot about releasing all expectations towards yourself and  letting go of patterns of subjugating your body. We are not here to pathologise or "solve" anything, but to meet what is yearning to be witnessed, with unconditional loving presence.Feel welcome to address all of those worries, pain points and patterns in the pre-talk and we are happy to offer you guidance, a space for healing and support.